Mastering the Art of Touching in Dating

Touching is crucially important in the game of dating. Most men do not possess this wonderful ability. Their physical contact reminds either a bear-like hug or a dry and formal business handshake.

This article tells you all about the major aspects of touching with regard to dating.

Do not rely on a woman to tell you how you should touch her so that she will call it "thrilling". She will never teach you that.

The only thing you may notice is her facial expression if you are too rough and then... she might be gone… just like that.

Your touching (or lack of such) tells her a lot about you as a lover. And so does your kiss. However, let's follow this dating guide and learn first things first.

How many times during your dating life you spent a few hours or a few dates with a girl and did not touch her even once? You knew that you should do something at certain moment but you simply did not dare.

When you finally dared to touch – it was quite surprising for both of you and did not feel natural and smooth at all.

So what’s the bottom line? Most men can’t touch a woman and they don’t even know when to begin doing that.

After reading (and following!) this advice you will never have this “issue” again. You are on your way to becoming a smooth and gentle lover.

Here is your step-by-step guide to touching.


Realize that people form certain picture of you from the very first moment of the interaction. If you don’t touch them at all – they will think of you as of the guy who generally does not touch people.

They will be OK with that fact. If you show from the very beginning that you are comfortable with physical contact and you touch people a lot because this is simply a part of your personality – they will be ok with it too.

Your task is to follow this dating advice and to become a guy who uses a lot of physical contact in his communications. Get used to give high-fives, handshakes, start kissing girls on the cheeks, etc.

This kind of touch is generally accepted and not seen as “unusual.”

It will take you anything from two days to two weeks to get used to this new way of communicating with everyone.

From now on, you are going to use this innocent touch from the very first moment of your date.

  • Are you introducing yourself? Use a handshake.
  • Seeing a woman for the second time? Give her a gentle hug and kiss her on the cheek.
  • Did she say something that made you laugh? High-five her.
Use this new way of communicating with people. Make it a habit.


Touching area: arms.

Start holding hands with her. If you move from one location to another – take her by the hand. Lead.


Touching areas: shoulders, back.

Instead of high-fiving her - simply put your arm around her shoulders for a few seconds as a sign of your emotional high.

Alternatively, you can pull her towards you to hear her better. Remember, do not lean in.

Read this article on good body language, if you have not done so already.


Hugging her without kissing. At this stage, you can simply smell her hair and keep her in your arms for a few seconds. Do not go for a kiss yet unless she initiates it. If two of you are sitting, you can keep your hand on her back the whole time.

This step of learning touching also includes talking right in her ear and letting your cheek brush against hers.

At this stage, you can let her head rest on your shoulder. You can hold her back with one hand while doing this or you can put your hand around her shoulders.



If you follow all the steps described above, it will be very easy for both of you to start kissing. Remember, all you do is leading her towards the things she already wants.

Your gradually increasing touching communicates all the right things to her.

The best moment to initiate kissing is when your faces are close to each other.

If you are far apart - find a smooth way to close the gap between two of you. Whisper something in her ear of smell her hair. From there slowly move in for a kiss.

Being an excellent lover means knowing HOW to kiss. Few men can do this well. Take some time and learn it. Put aside your mail ego.

Here is another good dating advice. Go watch some lesbian porn. Check the foreplay parts of the girl-on-girl adult videos.

After a short while, you will find ones that kiss really passionately in spite of the presence of the camera and the crew.

In addition to being masters of touching, those girls are amazing kissers. Learn from them.

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