Check Out What Type Of Open Relationship Suits You Best



What type of open relationship to choose? What are main differences between them? What's good for you? I will assist you in finding right answers to these questions.

Note: This classification is based on Tristan Taormino’s excellent book "Opening Up."

Open relationship can take many diffrent forms.

Classification that follows has NOT been created to begin judging others or put labels on them. Information below has a single purpose of OPENING UP a field of possibilities for you.


Begin carefully, communicate a lot with your partner. Only try models you feel strong resonance with. Too much freedom to unprepared person means the whole thing may explode right into your face and you loose your relationship along with your partner. This happened to me few times. Let me tell you that it HURTS. So proceed with caution, learn from my mistakes, and avoid pitfalls.




Modern society strongly encourages competition and jealousy. It teaches that in order to win you have to divide, to struggle, and to judge. Plenty of concepts were installed by negative social programming into your unconscious long before you became able to think critically.

This approach to things does much more harm than good in many areas of life and in particular in such a sensitive area as dating, sexuality, and relationships.

Try to form an idea what kind of open relationship is attractive for YOU. Make your own research into it. Only decide to go for open relationship if your current one is out of breath and you both are ready to try something new.


“DO NOT FIGHT EXISTING REALITY. CREATE NEW ONE.” Anonymous




Main types are:

  • PARTNERED NON-MONOGAMY – a couple stays committed to each other and at the same time, one or both partners can be sexually involved with other people outside of the relationship.

    Good model to start with. Experiences with other people may happen occasionally or periodically but in any case, they are considered commitment-free and non-romantic.

    Best relationship advice here is that it's up to you to determine how far sexual part is allowed to come. Some people agree that their partner may go all the way including intercourse. Others agree to go no further than masturbation or kissing.

    In any case, your committed relationship is your number one priority and you do not enter in any serious relationship with anybody else.

    This type of relationship can become your first step towards new way of life and your first step away from monogamy.



  • POLYAMORY – one person having few intimate relationships simultaneously. Those relationships are taken seriously by all partners and may include many different elements.

    They may include love, commitment, romance, sex, spiritual elements, and simply friendship.

    Word “LOVE” is used very often in addition to word “SEX” when people describe polyamorous relationships.

    Note: this model is for "advanced users." Unless you always were in search of it and finally found it here - approach this one with EXTREME caution.



  • POLYGAMY - one person having multiple spouses or partners.

    Most of the time polygamous relationships do not allow romantic and sexual involvement outside of the relationship.

    There are three different forms of polygamy:

    Polygyny – when one man has several wives or female partners.

    Polyandry – when one woman has multiple husbands or male partners.

    Group marriage – is a combination of polygyny and polyandry.




“YOUR GREATEST REGRETS IN LIFE WON’T BE THE MISTAKES YOU MADE; THEY’LL BE THE OPPORTUNITIES YOU LET SLIP THROUGH YOUR FINGERS BY FAILING TO ACT.” Steve Pavlina






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