Dating Guide. Step 2 - Find a Date. Figuring out What Kind of Women You Really Want to Meet




How to find a date? There is one important question that precedes this one. If you followed the first step of this dating guide figuring out WHO you REALLY are and WHAT YOU WANT in life - you can go on and decide what type of women actually attracts you and what kind of women you want to bring into your life.

Until you get sufficient knowledge of yourself - you can’t approach women efficiently and you can't find a date that will make you happy.

Like attracts like. You will constantly walk into people who either want to use you or are as confused about themselves as you are.

Low-conscious people tend to attract other low-conscious people. The more you will develop as a person the higher quality people you will attract. High quality means highly conscious, interesting, successful, and simply cool.

Getting clear about your personality and working on self-improvement will give you much better idea of your REAL desires. Once you know them – next step is to start bringing them into your life. This dating guide will tell you exactly HOW.

If you really want to achieve anything, you can’t be wishy-washy about it. The Universe is a precise mechanism that will bring you exactly what you want. This is like a post order catalog. First, you have to describe exactly what is it that you want.

I did it long ago when I was first introduced to this idea. Being curious, I wrote very thorough description of my ideal girl. She had to be among many things positive, interested in growth and personal development, tall, bisexual, doing sports, enjoying her job, etc.

I did not have an issue of how to find a date at that time. I wanted a good person to come into my life.

That description was about three pages in total. I went on with my life and got back to check that record only two years later. To my surprise and amazement, by the time I reviewed my “order” I was in a relationship with exactly the type of girl I described.

I never doubted this law afterwards.

So what kind of women do you actually want to have next to you in your life? If you find a date - what would it be?


"A MAN'S SEXUAL CHOICE IS THE RESULT AND THE SUM OF HIS FUNDAMENTAL CONVICTIONS. TELL ME WHAT A MAN FINDS SEXUALLY ATTRACTIVE AND I WILL TELL YOU HIS ENTIRE PHILOSOPHY OF LIFE… HE WILL ALWAYS BE ATTRACTED TO THE WOMAN WHO REFLECTS HIS DEEPEST VISION OF HIMSELF, THE WOMAN WHOSE SURRENDER PERMITS HIM TO EXPERIENCE—OR TO FAKE—A SENSE OF SELF-ESTEEM."

Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged




Sit down and to write a detailed description of your ideal situation with women. Get emotionally involved in what you write. Read this article of my dating guide for women on the subject of how to find a date and to manifest your intentions to get more insights and inspiration.



Write down your answers to the following questions. They are all about one thing. This dating guide is all about it. It's the kind of intimate life you really would love to live.

The question of how to find a date will become much more clear for you afterwards.

  • What is your ideal lifestyle? How does your ideal private life look like?
  • Where do you live then?
  • What is your occupation?
  • What is your social circle? What kind of friends do you have?
  • Activities? Sports? Parties? Travel?
  • What kind of women surrounds you?
  • What personalities do those girls have? What are their characters?
  • What are physical features of your girlfriend(s)?
  • What kind of relationship(s) do you have with your girlfriends(s)?

    Fortunately, nowadays your choice is not limited to monogamy or serial monogamy. Read this article on different kinds of open relationship . (Take your time and follow the links in this dating guide to expand your knowledge on what is actually possible. It's not only about how to find a date.)

  • How do your women feel towards you?
  • How do you feel towards them? (You might be surprised with your answer to this one.)



CREATE AND HOLD AN INTENTION



Intend to have the lifestyle you just chose along with those amazing relationships. This is a preparation part. It has to be done before you start learning the necessary skills.

The rest of your journey shall be build upon a positive and self-perpetuating belief system. That is the goal of this chapter of the dating guide on how to find a date and attract women into your life.

Realize that the outside world is a mirror of your inner world. The only difference that things appear in that mirror with a substantial delay.

Imagine you standing in front of such a mirror. First you see nothing, after a while your features start to appear slowly.

If you get frustrated and leave – those features will eventually disappear.

You have to KNOW. Not believe, not trust, but KNOW that this is how the Universe works. I know. This is how it works for me. Do not rely on my words. Try it for yourself. You can never be sure what is happening within any belief system unless you dive into it and experience it firsthand.

Beliefs installed by society and the upbringing did not assist us much as men. They did not help you to find a date. When you adopt (even for a short while) a belief system I am talking about here, there will be no drawbacks. Only diamonds.



This is what is going to happen:

  • You will hold yourself ultimately responsible for everything that happens in your life.
  • You will stay positive and upbeat since you know that the world will reflect back your positivity as well as negativity if you so decide.
  • You will understand that to receive value from the world (such as love, pleasures, human warmth, friendships, find a date) – you have to GIVE some value FIRST. You will become a value GIVER.
  • Giving value is Universal Love in action. You will come to women with a FULL CUP, not trying to GET something but sharing your unique personality and good emotions. This is why it is so important to discover and develop your personality as described in the previous step of this dating guide .



"THE MAN WHO IS PROUDLY CERTAIN OF HIS OWN VALUE, WILL WANT THE HIGHEST TYPE OF WOMAN HE CAN FIND, THE WOMAN HE ADMIRES, THE STRONGEST, THE HARDEST TO CONQUER—BECAUSE ONLY THE POSSESSION OF A HEROINE WILL GIVE HIM THE SENSE OF AN ACHIEVEMENT…[A REAL MAN] DOES NOT SEEK TO GAIN HIS VALUE, HE SEEKS TO EXPRESS IT. THERE IS NO CONFLICT BETWEEN THE STANDARDS OF HIS MIND AND THE DESIRES OF HIS BODY…"

Ayn Rand, Atlas Shrugged



Live so for a few months. Give it a fair try. Later you can decide if you want to go back to negativity, manipulation and hypocrisy like so many people in this world are living. And that's why no dating guide in the world can help them. Even to find a date is too much in their case.

Important note: Whatever you do – don’t look at other people while determining what kind of women you want to meet and date. What others think of you is THEIR business. Not yours.




"[YOUR SOUL] IS REAL ONLY WHEN IT’S INDEPENDENT… PEOPLE WANT NOTHING BUT MIRRORS AROUND THEM. TO REFLECT THEM WHILE THEY’RE REFLECTING TOO. YOU KNOW, LIKE THE SENSELESS INFINITY YOU GET FROM TWO MIRRORS FACING EACH OTHER ACROSS A NARROW PASSAGE. USUALLY IN THE MORE VULGAR KIND OF HOTELS. REFLECTIONS OF REFLECTIONS AND ECHOES OF ECHOES. NO BEGINNING AND NO END. NO CENTER AND NO PURPOSE."

Ayn Rand, The Fountainhead



Notice when your social conditioning or upbringing will start to mingle with a process of your personal development. Just be aware of it. Once you notice - stop and realize that it's just an old conditioning at work. Then simply remove the block and keep creating your new life.

Turn on an internal watch guard for this kind of things. You are creating a new lifestyle. It’s deeply personal. Don’t let anyone else influence it.

Meeting new people is all about skills. There is no magic. It’s all learnable. Once you know what kind of women you like and want to have next to you – it's time to make a following step.

Read this article on your next step in the dating game to make an HONEST ASSESSMENT OF YOUR PRESENT SITUATION. Learn all what you need to know in order to become successful. This article covers a whole range of subjects from installing right beliefs to your image and interpersonal skills...


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