Dating Guide. Step 5 - Going out and Doing the Right Thing. Dating Tips for Men




The following dating tips for men will immensely help you once you complete all of the previous steps of this dating guide. Now you can finally go out and apply that knowledge. The truth is - it’s the most exciting task.

Let’s go in-depth into DO's and DON’T's of your in-field adventures.

First, as you already know from the previous pages of these dating tips for men, you can meet interesting women just about anywhere.

Public libraries, shopping malls, subways, café’s, bars, discos, fitness studios, nightclubs… you name it.



DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENTS



There are three basic environments where you can choose to operate.

First one includes places where people go out and talking to strangers is considered to be OK. Examples: nightclubs, bars, disco's, etc.

Second environment - places where people come not expecting to be approached. Examples: public transport, libraries, shopping malls, etc.

In such places, people are used to go about their business. They normally don’t talk to strangers due to negative social programming that allows them only watch others from the distance.

Third environment is your social circle. This is the easiest one. Once you start developing, changing and growing as a person, your social circle will start to expand. Meeting someone new will be easier and will happen almost automatically.

There will be no real strangers since you could be introduced to someone you don’t know within a few minutes by one of your friends.

And here comes the bomb:


YOUR POWER IS CONTAINED IN STEPPING OUT OF THE SOCIALLY ACCEPTED STANDARDS AND ACTING AS YOU LIKE REGARDLESS OF THE ENVIRONMENT. YOU SEE AN ATTRACTIVE WOMAN AND YOU SIMPLY GO AND APPROACH HER. NO MATTER WHERE YOU ARE – YOU STEP UP AND DO THAT.



Scared? Here is how you do that. You can find something in a situation to make remark/comment/ask a question. Nothing weird. You are just a social guy. Re-visit Step 3 of this dating guide and learn some dating tips for men on how to expand your comfort zone and become a social person in a few easy baby-steps.

Feeling confident? You can state your interest and intentions directly.

I advice you to try both approaches for at least 2 months each. See which one suits you better at the moment. Nothing is carved in stone. Right now, you may feel more comfortable approaching women and asking them some standard question or making an innocent comment.

After a while, you will feel comfortable enough to state your interest directly. All is good as long as you are taking ACTION.

Realize that ONE HOUR of going out and talking non-stop to women is worth six months of internet surfing and reading dating tips for men. First hand experience rules. Remember it. This dating guide is based on ACTION.

These dating tips for men require APPLICATION in real life. It's not something to think about for too long. It's a "read-it-and-apply-straight-away" kind of stuff.



TWO EXTREME APPROACHES



There are two extremes in going out and meeting women. The ideal path is actually in the middle.

1. You are very creative and intuitive person and you say to yourself that you just go about your day and see what happens. After reading this dating advice and dating tips for men, you ignore making plans and try to go with a flow. Realize that in the end of the day nothing happens. You need to make a plan and follow it.

2. You are extremely logical and consequent kind of person. You create a plan and follow this dating guide and all the dating tips for men to the letter. You are very serious about it. This is an excellent approach.

However, remember that magical spark of inspiration is at the exact point where your logic/seriousness meets your intuition/fun. Therefore, bring some vaudeville-like happiness and lightness into your learning.



DO's and DON’T's



Once you are "in-field", there are some important rules to follow. You may notice that some parts of these dating tips for men are a bit nightclub/bar-oriented but you can easily adjust them to any scenario.
  • Be actively busy ALL the time while you are out. That means if you are in a club and your plan says that you have to approach 5 women and stay with them until you get their number (or they simply leave) - you do it non-stop.
  • Do not wait. Do not go to the bathroom. Do not look around. Start approaching from the very first moment you enter the place.
  • Learn watch yourself dispassionately. After a while you will notice when your inner voice will tell you to go buy a drink, check out the club, or talk to your friends. This is simply the fear of expanding your comfort zone talking. Thank him for trying to protect you, get back to your plan, and keep approaching.
  • You may decide not to set any number of women to talk to but just to approach and see what happens. This is also great but allocate a certain amount of time (no less then two hours) for this task.
  • Do not go out with your old friends. Experience shows that they will rather hold you back. Find someone who has similar goals with you and go out together.
  • Go out alone if you dare. This makes you strong and confident in a very short time.
  • Don't stand next to the wall with a drink pushed to your chest. Keep your drink low. This is all about good body language and it says a lot about you.
  • Golden rule: Whatever you feel – she feels. Get yourself in a good mood. Walk with a smile, enjoy your adventure, and be social.

If rejected – do not let it affect you in any way. Remember, there is nothing personal in rejection. Many women are simply not in a mood to meet anyone new or they are programmed by the media and magazines to play certain kind of games.

This is the real world. Even the best of the best get massively rejected from time to time. The only difference between those who succeed and those who give up is that those who win do not let rejection to affect them in any way.

Congratulate yourself once you complete your daily mission. Particularly when it was "not-so-successful" kind of a day. Celebrate it, give yourself a present. This is not for your logical mind. This is done for your subconscious as a confirmation that you love yourself.


GOING OUT AND APPROACHING PEOPLE IS THE MOST IMPORTANT STEP OF THIS DATING GUIDE AND YOUR WHOLE JOURNEY TOWARDS SUCCESS WITH WOMEN AND DATING DEPENDS ON IT.



Once you meet a girl or a few that you like you may want to start a relationship with them. Free Relationship Advice chapter of this website is ready to help you. However, so far you simply have to go out and meet lots and lots of people.

Remember to assess your results regularly. Read the next step of this dating guide and dating tips for men to learn how to do it quickly and efficiently...




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