Dating Rules - Learning the Basics of the Big Dating Game




Here is a quick and simple breakdown of the fundamental dating rules. Rules of thumb if you wish. No matter where you are, no matter if you are a man or a woman - these dating rules are like a compass on your way to successful and abundant personal life.

Whenever in doubt or feeling as if you are loosing the way - come back and read them again. They will set you on the right track every time again and again.



RULE #1: KNOW WHAT YOU REALLY WANT



This point is HUGE. Take your time and decide for yourself: what is it that YOU REALLY WANT.

Discard society' model of what is "right" for a while. I cannot possibly emphasize this point more. That’s crucial.

Whenever you will break this rule, you will find yourself in a mess and you will feel unhappy too. No dating advice would be able to help you.

A strong sense of SELF is your key in all communications. In fact, it should be starting point for people considering entering any kind of relationship.

Take your time and find out WHO YOU ARE, WHAT IS IMPORTANT FOR YOU and WHAT YOU NEED and WANT IN LIFE. The more clarity you have about your wishes, issues and goals - the more you can act and build the kind of life you desire.

In fact, only after this step you will need any dating advice.

For example, key points for you to decide upon are:


  • Do you want one steady monogamous relationship? Remember that monogamy paradigm is (fortunately) NOT THE ONLY ONE available to you. There are few others to choose from. Read this article on different types of open relationship.
  • May be you want to have a playmate and be for the rest totally free?
  • Was your REAL desire to have two boyfriends at the same time - but you had to suppress it because of your family and close friends' opinions?
  • May be you simply want to stay single for a while and are too afraid to admit it even to yourself? Why? Those around you may think it's time to settle down and have kids.


Get real. Get honest with yourself. Figure it all out. This is how YOUR future is going to look like.

Do not take ANY consideration of what others might think of you.

Read this article on negative social programming with regard to your intimate life and dating rules.



RULE #2: SUCCESS IN DATING IS A LEARNABLE STEP-BY-STEP PROCESS



It is not some kind of superpower given to a chosen few.

EVERYONE can learn it. It is similar to learning how to drive a car.

You simply have to re-wire much of what you thought you knew about human behavior, dating and social dynamics in general.

This website will give you plenty of interesting insights.



RULE #3: MAN'S MONEY, STATUS, AND EXTERNAL BEAUTY DO NOT MATTER



You can be a very ugly man with no means and still have amazing women around you. Two vital things that determine your success are your personality and general attitude.



RULE #4: PROGRESS IN DATING IS JUST LIKE A PROGRESS IN ANY OTHER AREA OF LIFE



Realize that you might have to improve certain areas and that it might take a bit of your time. You may have to attend few seminars or workshops.

The truth is that you can have any relationship and lifestyle you want applying these dating rules and other principles given here. The only condition is - be persistent and determined enough to stick with the process.



"IF YOU FAIL TO CLAIM AUTHORITY OVER YOUR OWN LIFE, SOMEONE ELSE WILL SURELY CLAIM IT FOR YOU. MANY PEOPLE ALLOW THEIR SPOUSE, PARENTS, OR BOSS TO PRACTICALLY RUN THEIR LIVES. THIS PRACTICE PULLS YOU OUT OF ALIGNMENT WITH TRUTH AND POWER AND DROPS YOU IN A LOWER STATE OF CONSCIOUSNESS. YOU BECOME INCREASINGLY HELPLESS AS YOU DISTANCE YOURSELF FROM YOUR TRUE NATURE. YOU ARE MEANT TO BE FREE."

Steve Pavlina







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