Dating Guide. Step 7 – the Final Stage. Taking All That Wealth of Dating Information and Creating a Spiral of Success
Once you start applying all the dating information contained in this dating guide, it’s important to create positive momentum and to keep moving forward. This chapter will assist you in drawing right conclusions, re-adjusting your goals, and keeping you motivated and fit.
See, the road to success is not all straight and smooth. It rather looks like a small step up followed by a long straight line.
Initially you start going out and having some results. You get very excited and motivated. And rightly so!
This stage will last for a while and then you inevitably will hit a plateau.
However, I knew that there was no way back for me. What was the alternative? Settling down for a quality of life which was far less then I felt I could achieve was not an option. I already had an experience of compromising things in my life and later waking up with that empty feeling knowing that I was living far below my abilities.
Where else could I go but forward?
THE TRUTH IS - THIS IS THE WAY ANY PROGRESS IS ACHIEVED. MANY HEAVYWEIGHT PSYCHOLOGISTS AND BEHAVIOR SCIENTISTS CONSIDER THE “PLATEAU” STAGE TO BE THE MOST IMPORTANT IN ACHIEVING ANY MEANINGFUL GOAL. ACCORDING TO THEM, IT’S WHEN WE SEEM NOT TO HAVE ANY PROGRESS AT ALL BUT KEEP PUSHING TOWARDS OUR GOAL - THAT'S WHEN WE GROW THE MOST.
While your logical mind does not perceive any visible progress, your subconscious is working hard on digesting massive amounts of social interactions data and new dating information. Lots of internal re-wiring is taking place before the final "quantum leap" is achieved.
It will come as an explosion. All of a sudden, you actually FELL that you are at a new level. When this will happen – there will be no mistake - you will KNOW.
So don’t become discouraged if after a while your progress seems to stagnate or to become "non-existent."
If you keep moving pro-actively, following this dating guide and applying all that dating information eventually any plateau will end. It is as inevitable as hitting the same plateau after a period of successful growth. BE PATIENT.
How do you deal with those plateaus? Simply go back to your action plan, re-evaluate your progress, see what works and what does not, list a couple of solutions for the “issues” found, and go back to action.
Put some effort in finding new friends with similar goals, people with whom you can discuss things. It’s a great idea to create a mastermind group. Does not matter if it will be a group of two, three, or five people. Most important is that you have common goals, get together regularly, discuss your progress, and give each other a constructive feedback.
In fact, your spiral of success will consist of the following steps:
1. Go back to Step 3 of this dating guide and check your homework notes on your beliefs, values, and borders with regard to yourself, women, and dating. Information contained in those notes is highly valuable.
2. Get some feedback on your voice, manner of speaking, and body language.
3. Check your physical appearance, cloths, shoes, and accessories.
4. Go to Step 4 of this dating guide and make corrections to your action plan.
5. Determine what skills you are developing coming month.
6. Decide what you are actually going to do when out in the club (or any other place) during a coming month.
7. Go out and execute your plan.
8. Come back after a month and repeat this simple process.
Your ongoing assessment and re-evaluation of your progress will create a positive spiral of success and greatly increase your pace. To stay motivated, I used to listen to motivational tapes, read inspirational articles, and hanged out with the most positive people I could find.
Note: Do not expect your ego and your subconscious mind to go along with all these changes easily. In spite of you reading all this dating information, they are used to the safety of your old, grey, and dusty comfort zone. Just like my ego and brain were. Make a conscious effort to motivate yourself by ALL AVAILABLE MEANS every single day.